As women, we all dream of falling in love and settling down. This man is a friend; confidant, lover and someone we hope to one day start a family with. However, sometimes, life gets in the way. You think he’s the perfect guy and unfortunately, he doesn’t end up being. Or he is, but he is just not the guy for you. It’s funny because our society puts so much pressure in marrying someone at the right age and then if you decide to walk out, you are majorly judged. Makes you wonder? Instead of blaming women for getting a divorce, should we be blaming our society as the reason for it? Perhaps if we allowed women to have the freedom of marrying when they think they are truly ready, maybe more time would be spent in evaluating their relationships.
If a woman does decide to walk out, for whatever the reason maybe, they are then put into a box that is labeled- UNTOUCHABLE. Families don’t want their boys getting to know such women because since she has had one failed marriage, she is no longer marriage material. However, a guy who has been through a divorce and is financially stable is not labeled in any way. In fact, it doesn’t seem to change the way anyone views him. So why patranize our species this way? Can’t a woman start over just like a man can? We are labeled as crazy feminists because people claim we want to be men. Yet, that is not what we ask for. We ask to be given the same rights as men to grow as an individual. Shouldn’t we be granted that?
If you are a woman going though a divorce or have just had one, I urge your to turn a deaf ear to what people are saying. It takes a lot to for a woman to walk out on a marriage and to start over. Remember, if it wasn’t working, at least you are giving your significant other the opportunity to find what works for them. I don’t encourage divorce. This is for the women that have tried to make it work with their whole heart and have been LED to walk out.
At the end of the day, people are going to say what they want. They are going to label you however they want. And, you are never going to truly know what someone else thinks about you. So, care about what YOU think! Do what you need to do. If you have had the courage to take this step and start new, be proud of yourself are reinvent yourself.
Remember, you have one life to live. So take a deep breath, and make sure that no matter what happens …
it is a life YOU like living in!