Time and again, I notice that women give up on who they are as people in fear of losing the man they love. It really only makes you wonder, why fight for someone who clearly doesn’t love you for who YOU? If someone truly loved you, they’d never want to change you. The word LOVE is actually a selfless one and yet in time, we have made it about thinking we have the right to OWN someone else. Take a look at the things you should NEVER do to keep a man interested.
Drop your friends: Just because your seeing someone right now doesn’t mean your friends have to be forgotten about. I hate to break it to you guys, but statistically, do you hear more about friendships ending or relationships? Don’t forget the people that have been there for you and would continue doing so. If your other half has an issue with one of your friend’s, there is no reason for you to end your bond with them. You need to ensure that they both know that they will have to reach common ground as they both are going to stay in your life, whether they like it or not.
Make him your number one priority: In relationships, it is important to make sure that the other person knows that they are ONE of your priorities. But, revolving your whole world around them only really shows the guy that you don’t have much of a life. Why do women loose their independence once a man comes around? Focus on your goals. Have goals for crying out loud! If you make someone your world, you’re only going to get disappointed. Your relationships are a part of you. They will never be a time where making someone your entire life will be considered healthy.
Your Morals matter!- Don’t turn into someone your not. Just because he may think a certain way or have certain beliefs, doesn’t mean you need to as well. Have a mind of your own. If you don’t agree with something, stand your ground. Remember, your morals and values serve as your inner compass. The decisions you make and the stands you take will always be the only factors that define YOUR character.
Life changing decisions– Don’t move mountains for him unless he is doing the same for you. When women are scared to lose their other half they make life-altering decisions to make sure that the bond survives. Yet, they never stop to ask themselves, is he willing to do it for me? Do not make decisions that revolve completely around him. Do not give up a job, or move countries unless YOU BOTH want to work at your relationship together and have a plan that caters towards your happiness and goals as well. It takes a lot to make a relationship work but make sure you’re not the only one sacrificing everything.
They say it’s a man’s world and on some level I agree. But we all know this world wouldn’t survive unless there were strong women in it.
At the end of the day a girl will do anything for the boy she loves.
But a woman?
She will ensure that the man she is investing in is also investing in her. And, that means allowing her space to not only love him, but also….